Friday, January 8, 2010

The Cold Freezes Everything

I ought to blog more often as I have so many things to share - about living in France, about being yet another Malaysian, but mostly being ME, infusing in a foreign culture and lifestyle. But the winter winds of the Indre Valley is numbing me to a halt. I feel like I'm semi-frozen, even in a panoply of woolies. The cold doesn't agree with me. I am tropical through and through.

It has been over 3 months since I last made my measly effort to record my thoughts in cyberspace and I'm not too proud of my non-enthusiasism. I'm lazy and I lack motivation. Has this new life of sleepless nights (kids) and endless physical labour (expensive domestic help) and the feeling of entrapment (practically zero social life) taken a toll on me? Maybe.

Almost all Malaysians with French partners (or other non-English speaking natives for that matter) who moved to their partners' country go through a "difficult" period at the beginning. Most, are smart enough to take the initiative to learn French immediately. As oppose to me. I have learnt from my time that this is absolutely CRUCIAL and the root to happiness when we arrive into France. It's the key to total immersion into their world. Without this proficiency in their language, you will not be able to enter into their society in contentment.

This is what I lack and although it's never too late to learn, once children comes into the picture, your mobility becomes very much limited. So, for those who stumbled upon my blog, who are in fact 'newbies' to this Land of Frogs, hungry for the littlest of insight into this unique world of the French - my first advise to you is GO LEARN FRENCH PROPERLY! :) There is no way around this. It's now or never. Once you are equipped with this, I tell you, half of the battle is won.

Back to the freeze. Oh yes indeed, it is COLD. Brrrr... I was mortified the other day when I saw an outside reading of -9C on our thermometer. These days, I dread at the thought of going out of the house. Sending and picking up my kids, included. I just want to stay indoors, snuggle up in a warm cover with my 2 hands clinching tightly on a hot cup of cocoa. The reality is that daily chores await and I don't have the luxury to do all that was mentioned. I hate putting piles of clothes on. It's weighty and restrict my movement. But I have no choice, if I wish to stay defrosted. Our house is maintained at 18C for 2 reasons. One, gas and electricity is expensive here (we have a huge space to heat), and two, my husband insists that this temperature is the healtiest to be in. (My parents used to turn the heat on to the max, probably more than 25C, in winter, when we used to live in Europe - I was always sleeveless and in shorts). 18C - me no like. Me from hot country! What do I do? I put on my warmest pants, throw on 3 layers of itchy woolen tops, put on my Merino wool-lined Emu boots on (yes, that Ugg boots competitor) and hey why not a hat too, since I'm about to climb the cold Hilamalayas. Err... no, you are still inside your house, dear. And off goes the abominable snowman, I mean snow woman, to do her mundane wifey, motherly, tasks... clean, clean, scrub, scrub, wash, wash, wash, store, store, chop, chop.. and round again.



Aaah.. at the end of the day... What's nicer than to de-stress in front of the fire place, prepared with love by hubby dearest... oh, wonderful flame, may you crackle and pop till my winter blues are burnt away..

4 comments:

roni bergugnat said...

Hi Dida - its true, a fireplace makes the cold much easier to bear! Our gas heater broke down 2 days ago in the middle of the night and it was freezing!
Chin up, girl :) We Malaysians are a tough lot! And Spring is coming soon ...
FYI having friends here are not the same if your friends are not Malaysians - somehow the friendship is not as close or as comfortable. My social life is limited to a toddler's playgroup, once a month or so and rare outings with a couple of moms who speak English cos no matter how hard you try, and no matter how many lessons you sign up for, French is a damn difficult language to learn with its feminine, masculin, present, passe compose, future simple, future proche, subjonctif and more. Its all confusing and utterly frustrating!
But I am happy to have found you and Bee online. And I look forward to reading more from your blog!

Dida said...

Dear Roni,

Thank you for dropping by! I've just seen your comment now (it's past midnite and the kids are asleep!). I'm awful! I'm getting lazier by the day and hardly log in here :(, nor do I visit fellow bloggers. Yes, that's what I've learnt, us Malaysians who have bravely ended up here in France are beating the odds! We are indeed a tough lot ;)! And yup, it's springtime in no time! Although I have not really made any real friends of my own here, I have heard (from others like us) of how making friends here are not the same. How's your French classes going? Do you speak French with your hubby? And how about Lucas? We have had some language-related 'challenges' with our eldest... I will try to blog about it soon. My husband has just bought a book on blingual children, although it's in French, entitled "Le defi des enfants bilingues" by Barbara Abdelilah-Bauer - apparently one of the recommended books on this topic. You can of course get it at Amazon.

:).. like you said, 'finding' others like us, albeit that it's merely online, makes us all feel less alone in our endeavours..

Gong Xi Fa Cai! I would have invited myself to your place if you were living just around the corner!

Robert said...

Greetings from Cyprus, we enjoyed your blog, Regards Mandy and Rob

http://anewlifeincyprus.blogspot.com/

Dida said...

Thanks for dropping by guys :)!